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Monday, July 6, 2009

Circle complete!

Yesterday I finally completed the circle which began in Arizona, USA passed through Vancouver, Canada; Chennai, India and finally ended in Nijmegen, Netherlands. I mentioned before about the rather interesting turn of events that led me to the Netherlands. In short I finally met the woman with the same weird complicated name that I have, with whom a Dutch professor fell in love and married and who after many many years came to Arizona for a conference where out of curiosity over the similar name that I have as his wife started talking to me and after many many months convinced me to study further in the Netherlands. There, thats a one sentence summary! :)

So yesterday I was invited by this professor to his home for dinner and I finally met the lady whose name without her slightest knowledge had such a change in my life! :). Now, before I continue, I have to mention that Indians are a rather complicated sub form amidst the homo sapiens. Our culture even within different parts of India is so distinctly unique and framed that to this day we struggle to cut across boundaries within home land. So when I first heard about a south Indian woman marrying a Dutch man, it sounded unbelievable. I was immensely curious to know what guts the woman had to make such a decision in life (India, couple of decades back was even more orthodox) and what she thought of it today.

Well, somehow I really din't get a chance to ask her any of that with the other people around. But two beautiful kids, a wonderful Indian dinner which lasted for over 3 hours with all of us talking at the same time, with the professor knowing more about India than any of us, his Indian wife talking in perfect Dutch and above all their constant laughter said it all.

I still can't believe the kind of sacrifices that both of them would have made for such a life, especially the woman! I can never possibly even imagine that. To all you women who had the courage to move out of our countries for love, I take a bow. :)

8 comments:

Pinay in Dutchland said...

I count myself one of those women and yeah its difficult. but when love beckons a woman, she heeds. thanks thamarai

thamarai said...

haha...I can imagine the cultural difference must have been huge for you as well..:)

~Lopa said...

haaa thats life... :)
Expect the unexpected... and it has worked out well for you so happy for you :)

Nice blog by the way; will follow :)

thamarai said...

Ya I guess you are right..Thanks Lopa..:).

Nicolás said...

You know, I think that the idea that the cultural difference can be so important, is actually something that relates a bit to our perception conditioned by our own culture. Wht I mean is that I am quite sure that western people don't see marrying an Indian as such a complicated thing as it is seen the other way round.

I really believe that most of the problems come from the idea that there IS a problem. In the end, we're all the same...

thamarai said...

ya..ultimately things can work out well I guess..Interestingly in a survey, people from other cultures seemed to be more willing to marry Indians than Indians marrying in other cultures...As you said, the very thought is a cultural thing...I guess we Indians need a LOT of opening up to do!! :)

Akhi Di said...

its really intresting cause u know my friend Uttara rite, her mom's cuz married a dutch guy and I think their kids( twins) where the most beautiful kids I have ever seen ( sid and uday r exception) but ya they were so fair , steel blue eyes and very fair complexion , pink lips and blond hair ..and everytime I met her I was just as curious as u and used to keep buggin her as how she went against the family and stuff...
Sadly they just got recently divorced but ya its still amazing how from breaking state barriers for marriages , Indians r going International. I really encourage it and u know why:)

thamarai said...

haha..Thanks Aki..:)you know the kids of this prof were really cute too!! :)..well, I support such mixing too...;)..I am reminded of Russel Peter's joke when he says that the entire world in the future will be beige...:D

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